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    May 30

    检讨:对于“人生就是一种经历”的理解过于教条

     

    “人生就是一种经历”,这句话是01年“十一”,我刚到深圳不久,我高中的班长,好朋友王境宇到深圳来玩,临走时,在巴士站上,他送给我这句话。

    事后很多次提起这个细节,王境宇都觉得自己是无心说的,而当我告诉他,我不仅仅把这句话作为自己人生的指导,而且经常拿出来说给别人听的时候,他甚至对此觉得内疚,没想到“一下子”担上了这么大的责任。

    正好我之后几年的经历和人生体验,让我坚定的以为,对这句话的理解和诠释足以支持和承载很多,即使和王境宇说这句话的初衷不同。

     

    最近的确困惑不少,人生最后一个2开头的日子,我发现,其实自己的理解还是过于的教条了,或者说,我过于的看重经历过程本身而忽视甚至是不同等重视结果。没有好好的总结和沉淀的过程和经历实际是空白的经历,浪费时间,经历和结果都是要追求的,不能一个轻一个重。

    比如最近我匆匆忙忙的在这个兴趣和那个兴趣之间的转换,打着追求经历本身的幌子,忽视做事的目的性和自己的兴趣爱好,结果是在不断的新鲜的“经历”中被各种细节冲击,让自己回到心浮气燥的状态,忘记踏实的行事风格,反省浅尝辄止,虚度了光阴。

     

    说到这里,让我想起今年元旦在珠海的那盘“杀人”游戏,那次的“杀手”是朱虹,而最可笑的是,由朱虹来投关键的一票,决定一个“警察”和一个“贫民”的命运并以此赢得胜利。当时,我已经都判断出了连曼藜肯定不是杀手,但是在疲劳之后,我还是在选择杀手的时候投了她一票,如此完全一样的失败促成了红粉笔中最经典的那盘“杀人”,不过这次的胜利者名字换成了涂燕,而我甚至错失那么好的机会:队长和海洪那么真诚的最后总结都没有让我冷静下来作出很好的判断。

     

    商业社会是个重视结果的社会。甚至可以说,结果是商业社会的第一追求。当然,经历是每个结果的必然,两者之间不能偏僻。更认真和踏实的去沉淀,是我写完这篇文字之后应该去做的。必须尽快告别这种对结果忽视的状态才能更好的走出当前的瓶颈,迎来我最爱的时刻:闭眼,静静感受春风来拂面,则所谓的如沐春风。

     

     

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